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November 17, 2015

Is Your Child As Picky As You Think?

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Common causes of picky eating

I use the term “picky eater” on my blog as shorthand for behavior most of us are pretty familiar with: refusing new foods, preferring familiar foods, and generally being a pain in the neck at the dinner table. But though my kids have certainly displayed all of those behaviors, I’ve never actually called them picky. It’s a label that’s not very helpful–and not very hopeful. And sometimes, what we dismiss as garden variety “picky eater” stubbornness is actually something else entirely. Could any of these common problems be making your kids seem “pickier” than they actually are?

Culprit #1: Snacking too much

You can’t come to the dinner table hungry and receptive to new foods when the last ten hours have been a free-for-all buffet of snacks. I know this well from having a snack-crazy son (and from being a lifelong snacker myself). That’s especially true when kids are nibbling on the go all day–then are expected to sit nicely at the table and eat food that doesn’t seem very fun in comparison.

Try This: Ideally, you’d establish set snack times (for example, 10am and 3pm). For some kids, that really helps reign in nibbling and build hunger for dinner. But honestly, it never really worked with my snacker son. What DID work: Establishing a veggie-only policy before dinner. Read: My Pre-Dinner Snack Strategy

Culprit #2: Drinking too much

I was a horribly picky eater as a child (read: My Picky Eater Recovery), and this was actually one of MY problems at dinner: I’d come to the table, chug down my milk, and not have room left for anything else. This drove my mom crazy. To this day, she still sometimes fills my glass only a quarter-full when I’m there for dinner. Old habits die hard.

Try This:  Beverages are filling, and while milk is loaded with nutrients kids need, too much of it can dull the appetite. According to MyPlate, children ages 2-3 need two cups of dairy per day, kids 4-8 need 2 1/2 cups, and older kids need 3. If your child drinks juice, guidelines from the American Academy of Pediatrics say that kids age 6 and younger should have no more than 4-6 ounces of it a day, and older kids no more than 8-12 ounces (even if it’s 100 percent juice). Consider serving these drinks between meals and water with meals if it’s a problem.

Culprit #3: Knowing there’s a guaranteed alternative

If there’s a plate of chicken nuggets waiting in the wings, there’s less incentive to actually eat what’s on the table. It’s tempting to make a special meal for your child, but it’s a slippery slope toward becoming a full-time short-order cook. And who has time for that?

Try This: Start making one meal for everyone, but be sure there’s something on the table that everyone likes, even if it’s just fruit or bread. Read: The Dinnertime Rule That Will Change Your Life

Culprit #4: Not liking how it looks/smells/feels

If you’ve just spent 45 minutes making a beautiful and delicious meal, it’s natural to be irritated if your child refuses to eat it. But instead of throwing up your hands in frustration, ask some questions. When I started asking my kids specifically what they didn’t like about a dish, I started getting valuable information. Older kids can tell you if chili is too spicy, if veggies need more salt, or if a soup would be better with more noodles. Even younger kids can verbalize that something looks yucky or smells funny–and that’s information you can use.

Try This: I love this phrase “How can we make this food yummier for you?” from the article 15 Transformative Phrases To Use With Your Fussy Eaters (there are so many winners in that list, so be sure to check it out!). 

Get More Help For Picky Eating:

  • Get clever mealtime tips and tricks: 10 Tips for Pleasing Picky Eaters
  • Find out what’s going on in that little head: What Your Child Wants To Tell You About Picky Eating
  • Learn what you can do if you’ve got a really, REALLY picky eater: 5 Common Causes At The Root Of Extreme Picky Eating
  • Get advice if you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on your child’s eating: When Parents Don’t Agree On How To Handle Picky Eating
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  1. Regan @ The Healthy Aperture Blog says

    November 17, 2015 at 1:54 pm

    I kid you not. I almost wrote yesterday’s post detailing how I’d realized that my kids aren’t as picky as I think they are. I discovered it this weekend when we were (abnormally) out more of the day than usual without snacks. They both came home from our day out “starving to death.” Typically, I meet that response with “Ok, well snack on this while I finish getting dinner ready” but I had put chili in the crockpot, so there was no need. We sat down immediately to eat and both my kids ate chili. FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER. I didn’t even give them a chance to ask for anything else (another new rule I’m working on thanks to you) since I thought “well if you’re REALLY that hungry, maybe you’ll try chili this time.”

    It was an epiphany 🙂

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    • Sally says

      November 17, 2015 at 8:54 pm

      Regan–how funny that you had that realization at the same time as I was writing this post. How funny. Congrats on the chili success! That’s fantastic! I’m also glad to hear you’re serving just one meal. Hooray!

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  2. Clancy Harrison says

    November 17, 2015 at 2:05 pm

    I love this article! Snacking always seems to be a problem with many of my clients (including my kids). I have found my children are the hungriest and most compliant with food after school. Once we started eating dinner after school and snacking before bed, I noticed the eating habits of my son change. It works in our family because my husband’s office is in our home but I realize it is not realistic for many families.

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    • Sally says

      November 17, 2015 at 8:53 pm

      Clancy–that’s great that you can manage dinner after school. You’re right, it wouldn’t work for a lot of families, but seems like that’s truly when my kids are hungriest too!

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  3. Jessica @ Nutritioulicious says

    November 17, 2015 at 2:14 pm

    This is such a great post! I really don’t like labeling kids as picky eaters – a label often turns kids into that label!

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    • Sally says

      November 17, 2015 at 8:52 pm

      Thanks Jessica!

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